Compromise

It’s been a rough week. Parenting teenagers is hard. I don’t always know the best thing to do to help them when they are going through a rough time. I do know I can love them though. Love makes the world brighter.

There was a big church dance tonight night. It was a regional dance that took in a big chunk of the state of New York. My 15 year old didn’t want to go. I tried to talk him into it. I tried bribing him, reasoning with him, and begging him. I tried everything I could think of short of forcing him. I didn’t want to do that. I just really wanted him to go and have a great time with other kids from church. I wanted him to want to go. Our congregation doesn’t have a lot of teenagers and I was looking forward to him having a great experience with other kids that share his values. It made me super sad that he wasn’t interested.

img_5007When it became apparent to me that he really didn’t want to go, I offered an compromise because the alternative was for him to sit at home playing video games on a Saturday night and I really didn’t want that. So, the two of us went on a mother/son date. We ate fast food–we got a Grand Mac from McDonald’s for him at the drive through, then went to Wendy’s because they have a Coca-Cola Freestyle machine (compromise!). After that we went to the high school musical, “Anything Goes”. He had several friends in the play so he seemed amenable to this compromise when I first proposed the idea. We topped off the evening with shamrock shakes. It ended up being a really great night.

I really love my teens. I love spending one on one time with them without all the distractions that can come up at home. I love hearing their views on the world, learning about their personalities, trying to see things from their perspective. And I love their senses of humor.

Life can be really hard for teenagers, but when I spend time with my boys, I realize what remarkable human beings they are becoming. Sometimes compromise ends up being the best of both worlds.

Shine on.

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